We are a Surrogacy Agency Helping to Match Surrogates and Intended Parents
Melissa's own experience of having three children by a gestational carrier has allowed Reproductive Possibilities, LLC to build a program that can meet each intended parent's needs as we guide them along the journey to parenthood.
A Surrogate Agency with a Personal Touch
With Melissa Brisman's own personal experience locating a surrogate and finding her way through the legal challenges and arrangements necessary to help her realize the joy of building a family of her own, Reproductive Possibilities offers a personal touch that can only come with someone who has gone through the process themselves.
Finding A Surrogate
Becoming a Surrogate Mother / Gestational Carrier
Melissa's Story: A Gestational Surrogacy Journey
After many years of wondering if I would ever have a child, my husband Daniel and I decided to embark upon a long journey and pursue gestational surrogacy. Although I could not carry a child myself, I produced healthy viable eggs that could be fertilized with my husband's sperm and placed in a gestational surrogate who would carry the baby to term.
We began with a visit to the doctor's office on Christmas Eve. Dan and I listened as he explained the medical procedure. The science, he told us, was the easy part. Our chances were over 50 percent each cycle, however, we would need to find a carrier who was both medically and psychologically suitable. As we left the doctor's office, my head was spinning. There was so much to digest in one sitting. I began to do research. As a lawyer, I knew there were serious considerations when it came to selecting a carrier. The laws in each state in which a carrier might be obtained had to be examined. States have different laws with respect to the legality of surrogacy and the legal rights of the intended parents.
The carrier we eventually found met our expectations. She had a family of her own with three children and a loving relationship with her husband who was supportive. She passed the psychological and the medical screening that involved extensive testing for sexually transmitted diseases.
Still I worried: would the carrier change her mind, who had control over the medical decisions once the carrier was pregnant, whose insurance policy would cover the pregnancy, whose policy would cover the babies after they were born, whose decision would it be to reduce the number of fetuses if our carrier became pregnant with more than two fetuses or if one was malformed, would the provisions in any contract be enforceable, what if the carrier decided she wanted to keep the babies, could we legally pay our carrier for carrying the babies? All these questions needed to be answered before our carrier became pregnant.
Finally, these issues were resolved and the paperwork was done. We were ready to begin. I was able to produce nine healthy embryos. They were fertilized in vitro and three were implanted in our carrier's uterus. By the sixth week of pregnancy two remained-one had miscarried. We prayed these fetuses would develop into healthy babies.
The ultrasound at the twentieth week was one of the highlights of the pregnancy. We drove up to Maine to observe and there they were on the ultrasound screen- two healthy boys kicking away in our carrier's uterus. I will never forget the day. As the birth approached, I tried to get what is called a parentage order from the local court. This would allow my husband and myself, the biological parents, to be placed on the birth certificate of the children, and would not force us to adopt our own biological children. I was told this had never been done in Maine and was not possible. I decided to petition the court to see if the court would entertain the possibility. I was successful.
There were many other small battles along the way. Our carrier's health insurance refused to cover her pregnancy when they found out she was carrying the babies for another couple, a legally impermissible tactic that took many painstaking hours for me to resolve.
When our carrier was 37 weeks pregnant, the doctor told us the babies were due. We packed our bags and drove to Maine immediately. When we arrived, our carrier was induced-with Dan, me, my carrier's husband and two teams of doctors in the room the place was a circus. The birth came before we knew it, both little guys were 15 minutes apart. I cut the cord of my first-born son. Andrew and Benjamin had finally arrived.
Five years later, the boys welcomed their sister into the family. We wish anyone embarking on this journey all the success and happiness we have enjoyed and shared as a family.
Melissa Brisman graduated Valedictorian from the Wharton School of Business at the University of Pennsylvania and graduated with honors from Harvard Law School. Melissa is licensed to practice in Massachusetts, New Jersey, New York and Pennsylvania and is a licensed certified public accountant.
Melissa Brisman first started helping couples become parents of miracle babies in 1996. Actually, she was her own first client, guiding and directing the process in which she and her husband Dan became parents of twin boys carried by a gestational carrier. A few years later, they had a daughter carried by another gestational carrier.
Melissa's excellent reputation is based on her compassion and empathy for each intended parent. Her expansive knowledge and experience has allowed her to create an agency staff that is prepared to successfully help parents build their family. Melissa is considered a true pioneer in this field who advocates for changes in the law in this area and lectures to physicians, potential parents, universities, and lawyers around the world.
Melissa has been a keynote speaker at numerous events, organizational activities and for prestigious institutions across the country, including the New Jersey Society for Reproductive Nursing Specialists, the American Society of Reproductive Medicine, Cornell Hospital and the Donor Egg Conference held each year in Charleston, South Carolina. Melissa has also served as a faculty member for the 2010 International Nursing Conference on Reproductive Health & Infertility. Melissa is a Notable Contributor for GayParentstoBe and has served on the Boards of the American Fertility Association/Path2Parenthood, Fertile Dreams, and Conceive Magazine and has also been the legal advisor and a Board Member of Parents Via Egg Donation and the LIVESTRONG Fertility Advisory Committee. Melissa is a professional member of Resolve, AFA, the American Bar Association-Family Law Section-Reproductive and Genetic Technology Committee, the Egg Donation and Surrogacy Professional Organization, the Organization of Parents Through Surrogacy, The Embracing Hope Scholarship Committee, the American Society of Reproductive Medicine, and the American Academy of Assisted Reproductive Technology Attorneys.
Reproductive Possibilities, LLC provides services to both intended parents and gestational carriers. For more detail on the services provided to intended parents, click here .
For more detail on the services provided to gestational carriers, click here .
Surrogate Mother Agency Staff
Let us introduce you to your Reproductive Possibilities team:
Melissa's Story: A Gestational Surrogacy Journey, Read more
Melissa’s Qualifications: Melissa first started helping couples become parents of miracle babies in 1996, Read more
Tel: 201-505-0078 Ext. 402
Virginia Walker is the Business Manager at Reproductive Possibilities, LLC. Virginia provides invaluable knowledge and support to the agency's clients.. With nearly twenty years of management experience, Virginia's leadership and organizational skills help maintain a solid foundation as the agency grows. Virginia is a graduate of Ramapo College of New Jersey, with a Bachelors Degree in Business Administration and Marketing and has been with Reproductive Possibilities, LLC since 2005. Virginia welcomes the opportunity to speak with any potential client about the services Reproductive Possibilities, LLC offers and how its staff can fulfill their dreams of parenthood.
Intended Parent Coordinator
Tel: 201-505-0078 Ext. 408
Alyssa Rende is an Intended Parent Coordinator who has been with Reproductive Possibilities, LLC since 2011. Alyssa has fulfilled various jobs within our agency, and uses all of her prior experience to provide intended parents and gestational carriers with exceptional care and consideration throughout their journey. She is a great asset to our team and is thrilled to see photos of "her babies" once they arrive.
Intended Parent Coordinator
Tel: 201-505-0078 Ext. 404
Jayme Wolff is an Intended Parent Coordinator and brings many years of business experience to the agency. Her professional manner and ability to multi task are great assets to Reproductive Possibilities, LLC as well as to the clients she assists. Her compassionate and caring attitude allows her to provide guidance and support to intended parents and gestational carriers throughout their journey together. Jayme enjoys the fulfilling and exciting role she plays at Reproductive Possibilities, LLC.
Intended Parent Coordinator
Tel: 201-505-0078 Ext. 409
Patricia Donnelly is an Intended Parent Coordinator with many years of experience, having worked in public relations and customer service. She is a graduate of Marist College with a BA in Public Relations and a minor in psychology. Her effective communication skills, compassionate personality and ability to manage multiple tasks, are assets as she manages the relationship between intended parents and gestational carriers throughout their surrogate journey. Patricia enjoys working in a team focused
environment, and loves the opportunity to help build families.
Gestational Carrier Coordinator
Tel: 201-505-0078 Ext. 414
Janis Leslie is a Gestational Carrier Coordinator. She spends many hours working with our gestational carriers beginning with their initial interview with the agency. She assists in gathering all required medical records and documentation so that gestational carriers can be matched with an intended parent. Janis thorough care and attention to detail, along with her medical and nursing background, provide a great vetting process for our gestational carriers and our intended parents.
Tel: 201-505-0078 Ext. 412
Brenda Garcia is an Executive Assistant to Melissa Brisman. She is the first point of contact for our potential clients and welcomes them with her warm and caring personality. Brenda brings over ten years of administrative experience and a strong background in communications. In addition, Brenda arranges for Melissa's speeches and seminars with physicians, clinics, universities, hospitals and clients.